I don’t know who reads my blog… I know a handful of people do…and I like to think that maybe some of them are suffering intensely like I am-and that they relate and benefit from hearing my perspective. I thought about guilt and suffering one day when I was lamenting to my friend (who has gone through what I’m going through) that I didn’t know what to make for dinner so we were going to McDonald’s. She said, “That’s fine. Your kids can live off McDonald’s for a little while. ”

To those of us suffering right now, I want to say … don’t feel guilty.

Don’t feel guilty if you are operating on survival mode.

Don’t feel guilty if you can’t get it together to make your family dinner.

Don’t feel guilty if you yell a little more than usual.

Don’t feel guilty if you forget things and lose things.

*Don’t feel guilty if you need time alone to pray, to process.

Don’t feel guilty if you can’t perform all your duties the way you used to or the way you think (or maybe someone else says) you should. I. E.: It’s okay if your house isn’t as clean as usual.

Don’t feel guilty if you have to ask for help or accept help that’s offered.

It’s okay.

Trust that you are doing the best you can in the circumstance. You can’t be your best right now and that’s okay.

I could give you a million examples of things I’ve forgotten to do or couldn’t pull together or I could take pictures of my house for you-haha.

But just know, if  you are suffering, you don’t have to feel guilty about what you can’t do, even if you used to be able to do it. Even if no one else understands, God does.

Ask for strength . . . and then do what you can. And know that it won’t always be like this. You’ll get on your feet again. You’ll be 100% again.

It’s part of the process and part of the path.

And remember, God is there.

2 comments on “Suffering and Guilt

  1. Aunt Susie

    That’s exactly it honey – fake it till you make it – keep trudging along, one foot in front of the other, knowing bit by bit, drop by drop the pain will subside and every so slowly a new path will appear.
    I love you

  2. Nancy

    Thanks, I needed to be reminded of this 😉

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